📌 How do you get your feelings back if it's like you've fallen out of love with your partner?
Relationships go through different stages, and sometimes it can feel like the love is gone. It's important to remember that this is a normal part of a long-term relationship. We offer a few steps to help you sort out your feelings and regain your intimacy.
1. define the problem
Start by analyzing the current state of your relationship. Ask yourself questions: What exactly is bothering you? What changes have occurred in your feelings? This will help you understand what you need to work on.
2. Your expectations
At the beginning of a relationship, many people have idealized expectations of their partner. Over time, it may turn out that reality does not meet these expectations. This is normal, and it is important to learn to accept your partner for who they are.
3. What you're missing
Sometimes a relationship may lack emotional support, shared interests, or physical intimacy. Try to determine what you need to be comfortable as a couple.
4. changes in relationships
Relationships change over time. If you used to spend a lot of time together, but now it has become a rarity, it is worth thinking about why this happened and how you can return the former intimacy.
5. Personal difficulties
Problems at work, stress or personal worries can affect relationships. Make sure that external factors do not put undue pressure on your couple.
6. Passing the stage of falling in love
Falling in love is a temporary but vivid stage of a relationship. When it passes, it is important to build a relationship based on real intimacy and understanding.
7. Seeing a real partner
It is important to learn to see your partner as he or she is, without idealization. Ask yourself questions: are you interested in this person, is his/her opinion important, can you discuss problems with him/her?
8. Crises in relationships
Crises are inevitable in any long-term relationship. They can be caused by changes in one partner's life or in the relationship itself. This is an opportunity to re-evaluate and strengthen your bond.
9. Reasons to be together
Think about what attracted you to your partner in the first place and what you have in common. This will help you understand what is important in this relationship and whether it is worth fighting for.
10. Open communication
Open and honest communication is the key to solving problems. Use "me-messages" to express your feelings without accusations. For example, say "I miss your attention, I feel lonely" instead of "You don't give me time".
11. What's missing from the relationship
If you feel that something is missing in the relationship, make a list of your needs and discuss it with your partner. Not all needs can only be met in a relationship - some of them you can fulfill on your own.
12. List of needs
Write out your needs, starting each item with the words "I want". Discuss this list with your partner and find solutions together.
When to seek counseling
If it is difficult for you to understand your feelings and establish relationships on your own, contact a professional psychologist. Consultation with a specialist will help you better understand the causes of your problems and find effective ways to solve them. Psytalk offers both individual and couples therapy.
Conclusion
Love takes effort and work. Fading passion does not mean the end of a relationship. With the right approach, it is possible to rekindle feelings and revitalize your connection with your partner. Be honest with yourself and your partner, and work to improve your relationship. The help of a Psytalk psychologist can be invaluable in this process.
